Monday, January 5, 2015

Practicing Good Boundaries

“Little children, make sure no one deceives you. The person who practices righteousness is righteous, in the same way that Jesus is righteous.” 1 John 3:7 (CEB) 

We all know that if you want to run a marathon, you can’t just jump off the couch and head to the race without training.  If you want to play an instrument, you will need some instruction and training.  Anything you want to get good at, you must practice. Sometimes that can be painful and hard work.  The same applies to creating healthy boundaries. 
The book Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, Zondervan, 3/1/2002, states that boundary-injured individuals are slaves who struggle to make value-based decisions on their own.  They tend to reflect the wishes of those around them and find it difficult to set limits.  It also says that as you begin to implement and practice healthy boundaries in your life,  you should expect to feel some guilt because this is new territory for you.  It goes on to say that you should rejoice in the guilty feelings because they are proof you are heading in the right direction.
I had just read this portion of the book when I received a call from someone with whom I was supposed to meet, together with several other people in less than an hour.  She wanted to reschedule, but her presence was necessary. Without her, there was no need for the meeting.  I didn’t have phone numbers for everyone who was meeting with us and I knew some were already on their way to the site.  She didn’t say she couldn’t meet, she just said that she would rather reschedule.  It would be a challenge to reschedule since we were so close to the starting time of our event.  Even though it was so against my grain to tell her no, I knew that saying yes would mean Iwould be the one to take the time and effort to reschedule the meeting, while taking the other people’s very busy calendars into consideration.  After I hung up the phone, my "people pleasing" instinct kicked in and I worried she wasn’t going to like me anymore.  I felt like the meanest person on earth forsaying no.
While we were meeting, several encouragements were laid out for this person to hear by others at the table.  None were planned and all were God-prompted.  I realized during our time together that she was going through something and God had planned in advance that she would be in that place at that time in order for those words of life to be spoken into her heart.  Satan was trying to ensure that she would not come so that she would not be encouraged that day. Although I never knew the specifics of what she was going through, I left that encounter knowing that my obedience to setting a healthy boundary that day had allowed God’s plan to encourage her to come to pass; it had also thwarted the enemy’s plan to keep her sitting in her pit.  As I thought back over what I had recently read in my Boundaries book, I rejoiced in the guilty feelings which had almost caused me to give in to her request, which would have added more tasks to my “to do” list for later.  I was beginning to practice healthy boundaries and was blessed that God had honored it that day.
What in your life do you need to practice at in order to improve? Do you see a place in your life where your boundaries could use some work in order to get healthier?

Lori Kennedy

Monday, December 22, 2014

God Initiated the Story

Are you like me when you discover some new nugget of Truth in a familiar Bible story?  I get so excited and I want to share it with others!  Perhaps I shouldn't say "discover" but rather "when God reveals something that I had not seen before".  It happened to me this week as I was reading the Christmas story once again.

I always recognized that God was the Initiator of everything that transpired, but I never noticed that God was the Initiator in informing every single person/persons that the Messiah was about to come into the world:

1) Zacharias - in Luke chapter 1: 5-25, God sent the angel Gabriel to announce to Zacharias that he and his aged wife, Elizabeth, would have a son who would be the prophet of the Highest (see Zacharias' prophecy in Luke 1:67-79)

2) Mary - in Luke 1:26-38, God sent the angel Gabriel to announce to Mary that she would soon be with child conceived of the Holy Spirit.

3) Joseph - in Matthew 1:18-25, God sent an angel to Joseph to assure him that the Child Mary was carrying was truly the Son of God.  The angel gave Joseph instructions concerning his marriage to Mary as well as the naming of the Child.  

4) The shepherds - in Luke 2:8-20, God sent an angel to speak to these lowly shepherds telling them that the Savior had been born in nearby Bethlehem.  He even gave them details of how the Babe would be dressed and where to find Him. Then God kicked it up several notches and had a multitude (synonyms for multitude include a great/large number, a host, a swarm, a mass) of angels light up the night sky with God's glory reaffirming that the Savior had arrived.  Amazing!

5) Simeon - in Luke 2:25-35, God revealed to Simeon (in the temple when Jesus was 8 days old) that this Baby in the arms of Mary was the Holy One who would bring salvation. 

6) The Wise Men - in Matthew 2:1-12, God revealed to these wise men of the East (through a star) that the King of the Jews has been born.  God also divinely warned them in a dream not to return to Jerusalem but to depart to their own country another way.

Do you see the one common denominator to all these parts of the Christmas story? God initiated.  God the Father wanted to make sure that the birth of His only Son would be known.  But in His infinite wisdom, He only made this divine event known to a certain few.  God knew that the certain few He chose would be faithful with the message.

So that brings me to you and me today in the 21st century.  As we consider our own story of coming to faith in Christ, are we able to recognize that it was God the Father who initiated our story too?  Hebrews 12:2 tells us that He is the Author of our faith.  Jesus tells us in John 6:44 that no one can come to saving faith in Christ unless the Father first draws him/her.  We didn't just wake up one day and realize that we needed a Savior.  God the Father began the process and when our eyes were opened, we called upon the Lord Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of our sins.  Philippians 1:6 tells us that He who began a good work in us will be faithful to complete it.  My story had its beginning in October of 1985 when God opened my heart to His love.  I trust Him to complete my story, just as His word promises.  And He will complete yours as well. 

At this special season of the year, I pray we would ponder anew the amazing and mysterious ways of God's inauguration in the Christmas story and in our story.

I'm Mae Lynn Biggs and I have been a follower of Jesus for the past 29 years. My heart is to help women grow in their love for Christ and knowledge of His Word.  I love to spend time with my family, read, hike, and share from my quote collection.  I would love to hear from you- leave a comment below.

Tuesday, December 2, 2014

Your Soul is not a Trash Can

Your soul is not a trash can.  I heard this statement recently and have been giving it much thought.  I like to break things down or apart to understand better, so that's what I did with this.
Your soul is your mind, will, and emotions.  We are not just a body - - - we are souls.  We feed our soul every day of our lives whether we realize it or not.  We can have a "downcast" soul. (Psalm 42).  We can bless the Lord with our soul. (Psalm 103).  We can feel joyful or sorrowful in our soul. (Psalm 35) We can be empty or satisfied in our soul. (Psalm 63).  And most of the time our soul is in the state it's in because of what we've been feeding on. 
I looked up the word garbage and among the definitions given were these words:
Anything that is contemptibly worthless, inferior, or vile. Worthless talk; lies; foolishness.

Now let's return to the original idea that 'your soul is not a trash can'.  Broken down: Your mind, will, and emotions are not the place for anything that is worthless, inferior, or vile; nor should your soul be filled with worthless talk, lies, and foolishness.

If what we've been feeding on falls into the category of garbage, it's no wonder our soul is in need of restoration (Psalm 23) and full of trouble (Psalm 88). 

Just like a child needs to be taught not to put certain things in his mouth, we need to be reminded NOT to put garbage into our soul.  A child thinks nothing of putting something poisonous or dangerous into his mouth.  It never crosses his mind that there is a consequence to what he eats.  But as children of God, we should always be aware of what we are putting into our souls. God's Word tells us that there is always an afterward and that we will reap what we sow. 

Last week a read a great Christian novel published by Tyndale House.  I loved what was written in the introduction:

"We recognize that authors have something of a bully pulpit for communicating their worldview and values to their readers.  But with that opportunity comes a danger.  Just what worldview and values is an author communicating?  At best, most contemporary novelists present a squishy worldview.  At worst, they sow negative values and unhealthy attitudes in the hearts of their readers."

As followers of the Lord Jesus Christ, we must stay aware of what we are putting into our souls.  We must consider every book, movie, television show, song, and activity we partake in.  We must remember that our soul is not a garbage can.

I'm Mae Lynn Biggs and I have been a follower of Jesus for the past 29 years. My heart is to help women grow in their love for Christ and knowledge of His Word.  I love to spend time with my family, read, hike, and share from my quote collection.  I would love to hear from you- leave a comment below.

Monday, November 3, 2014

Tears for a Lost World

Will you be left behind?

This past weekend I saw the movie LEFT BEHIND at the theater. Perhaps you read my blog post a few weeks ago, "God Can Use Hollywood" on this very topic.  Well, I finally went to see it.  I read the reviews and the critics didn't have much good to say about the movie.  But I wanted to see it because I had read the book series a few years ago and I was curious to see how this huge future event would be portrayed.  

Although it was obvious that this film didn't have the multimillion dollar budget production that we are used to in contemporary movies, I was able to overlook that and focus on the message of the movie.  

The message of the movie, of course, is that millions of people suddenly disappear because of the rapture.  Those left behind come up with a variety of plausible causes, but the main characters realize it is the Biblical event that they've been warned about.  
Rather than say much more about the movie, I would prefer to focus on the event.  The rapture of the church is the event in which God “snatches away” all believers from the earth in order to make way for His righteous judgment to be poured out on the earth during the 7 year tribulation period. The rapture is described primarily in 1 Thessalonians 4:13–18 and 1 Corinthians 15:50–54. "Rapture" is drawn from the Latin term - caught up.  

If we truly believe that the Bible is the Word of God and is true, we must embrace the teaching of the rapture of the church.  When I came to faith in Christ 29 years ago, I had never heard of the rapture.  I had been raised in the catholic religion and they do not believe that Christians will be caught up/taken out of the world before the tribulation period.  (On a side note, I met a sweet Christian woman years ago who got saved out of Catholicism as a result of a coworker talking to her about the rapture!) 

When the movie was over and the lights in the theater came back on, I sat in my seat and cried.  I wept for several minutes while my husband waited.  I couldn't even tell him what I was feeling.  It was such a deep brokenness in my heart that all I could do was cry.  I thought of the scores of people I love who do not know the Lord Jesus as their Savior and how they will be left behind.  I thought of the horrible events of the 7 year tribulation period and all that they would have to endure.  I thought of how much Jesus loves them and their continued rejection of Him.  I thought of how much I loved them and didn't want them to be left behind.  Then I thought of all the opportunities I missed to tell people about the Lord Jesus.  I just had to cry all my feelings out.  Because after all, tears are liquid words. 

I pray that we all will have more of a heart to share the gospel every chance we get. Perhaps we can use this Hollywood movie as a conversation initiator.

 I'm Mae Lynn Biggs and I have been a follower of Jesus for the past 28 years. My heart is to help women grow in their love for Christ and knowledge of His Word.  I love to spend time with my family, read, hike, and share from my quote collection.  I would love to hear from you- leave a comment below.

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Some of Us are Called up Higher

I have read several posts on Facebook over the last few weeks about the lack of holy living in believers today.  I've commented on them, usually saying something about how we are all on a journey and in different places.  Then I came across THE HIGH CALLING in a Gospel tract.  I read it and reread it.  And I have concluded that this is right on!  

We are all called, but some of called up higher.  And not all of us are called as high as others.  It is easy to fall into judging others if they are not living like I am, but this clears up all confusion.  When we settle this in our hearts, we will no longer wonder or judge.  We will just live and love and rejoice that we are being used to further His Kingdom!

The High Calling....

If God has called you to be really like Jesus in all your spirit, He will
draw you into a life of crucifixion and humility, and put on you such
demands of obedience that He will not allow you to follow other Christians,
and in many ways He will seem to let other good people do things which He
will not let you do.

Other Christians and ministers who seem very religious and useful may push
themselves, pull wires, and work schemes to carry out their plans, but you
cannot do it; and if you attempt it, you will meet with such failure and
rebuke from the Lord as to make you sorely penitent.

Others can brag on themselves, on their work, on their success, and on
their writings, but the Holy Spirit will not allow you to do any such
thing; and if you begin it, He will lead you into some deep mortification
that will make you despise yourself and all your good works.

Others will be allowed to succeed in making great sums of money, or having
a legacy left them, or in having luxuries, but God may supply you daily,
because He wants you to have something far better than gold - a helpless
dependence on Him, that He may have the privilege of providing your needs
day by day out of the unseen treasury.

The Lord may let others be honored and put forward and keep you hid away in
obscurity, because He wants to produce some choice, fragrant fruit for His
coming glory, fruit which can only be produced in the shade.

God will let others be great, but keep you small.  He will let others do a
work for Him and get the credit for it, but He will make you work and toil
on without knowing how much you are doing; and then to make your work still
more precious, He will let others get the credit for the work which you
have done, and this will make your reward ten times greater when Jesus

The Holy Spirit will put a strict watch on you with a jealous love,
and will rebuke you for a little words and feelings or for wasting your
time, things which never seem to distress the other Christians.  So make up
your mind that God is an infinite Sovereign and has the right to do as He
pleases with His own, and He will not explain to you a thousand things that
may puzzle your reason in His dealings with you.  

God will take you at your word; and if you absolutely let yourself be His slave,
 He will wrap you up in a jealous love, and let other people say and do many things that you
cannot do or say.  Settle it forever, that you are to deal directly with
the Holy Spirit, and that He is to have the privilege of tying your tongue,
or chaining your hands, or closing your eyes in ways that others are not
dealt with.  

Now when you are so possessed with the living God, that you
are, in your secret heart, pleased and delighted over this peculiar,
personal, private, jealous guardianship and management of the Holy Spirit
over your life, you will have found the very vestibule of Heaven.

I'm Mae Lynn Biggs and I have been a follower of Jesus for the past 28 years. My heart is to help women grow in their love for Christ and knowledge of His Word.  I love to spend time with my family, read, hike, and share from my quote collection.  I would love to hear from you- leave a comment below.

Monday, October 6, 2014

God can use Hollywood

Last week I listened to a call in radio program on the Christian station as the host talked about the latest Bible based movie, LEFT BEHIND.  A variety of opinions were shared, but the one that struck a chord with me was the man who was critical of using parts of the Bible to make a movie.  I immediately grabbed my phone and called the program (never got through) because I wanted to share my story about Geraldine:

I’ll never forget the Sunday afternoon in 2004 when I met Dr. Geraldine Jean.  I was browsing the Christian book section of Barnes & Noble, when I heard the woman beside me say something. “Excuse me,” she said, “but do you know anything about the Bible?”
I looked over at a 30-something, African-American woman, very neatly dressed and attractive.  “Yes, as a matter of fact, I do. What do you want to know?”  I replied. 
“Well, I want to buy a Bible but I have no idea which one to buy.  I plan to go see THE PASSION OF THE CHRIST at the movie theater, but before I do, I want to read the story in the Bible.”

For the next hour, we stood in front of the shelves of Bibles and talked.  I explained the differences in various translations, etc.  She introduced herself to me ~ Geraldine Jean.  She had recently moved to our area to do her residency at the City Hospital.  She had just completed her degree medicine in Philadelphia.  She told me how she had grown up in Brooklyn, NY with a brother and a single mother. 

I told Geraldine all about my life, my love for the Lord, and my family.  I invited her to come to the Bible study I hosted in my home every other Thursday night.  Geraldine not only came to the Bible study, but also came to church with our family one Sunday.  Her schedule at the hospital was extremely busy….crazy to be exact.  So we didn’t have many opportunities to get together.  We spoke by phone occasionally and Geraldine told me that she went to see the movie and was glad she read about first in the Bible. She joined us for Thanksgiving that November since she was unable to go back to New York to enjoy the holiday with her family.

I lost touch with Geraldine but I will never forget the short season that she was in my life.

Geraldine's desire to read the Bible came from a movie that was in the theaters!  Our God can and will use anything.  Let's be careful how we judge.  

I'm Mae Lynn Biggs and I have been a follower of Jesus for the past 29 years. My heart is to help women grow in their love for Christ and knowledge of His Word.  I love to spend time with my family, read, hike, and share from my quote collection.  I would love to hear from you- leave a comment below.

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Why we need an Altar Ministry

I hope this "why we need" series is blessing and challenging you as it has me.  So far we've covered why we need to memorize Scripture, why we need to speak the Word, why we need Women's Bible studies, and why we need to continue learning to pray.  Today I would like to share my thoughts on why churches need an altar ministry.

So what exactly is an altar ministry?  An altar ministry is the time that typically takes place after a sermon is preached and an invitation is given.  This is a time for people to come forward to the front of the church to receive prayer, make a commitment or seek the Lord. This is a time for people to come forward to surrender, confess, and repent.  This is also a time for a decision to be baptized or to become a member of that particular family of believers. 

So why do we need an altar ministry?  Can't people go home and make a commitment, pray, repent, or confess?  Can't people just call the church office to declare their intention to join the fellowship or be baptized?  The answer is yes, of course.  But too often the busy lives we lead override these spiritual moments of decision and we end up not following through. 

The Holy Spirit is powerfully working during the worship service.  He is working through the singing, the praying, the praising, and the message from the Word of God.  The Holy Spirit's work is unique in each one of us.  He often times is the only One who knows our struggles, our fears, our secret sins, and our broken hearts.  Hebrews 3:7-8 tells us, "Therefore, as the Holy Spirit says:  Today if you hear His voice, do not harden your hearts as in the rebellion; in the day of trial in the wilderness." I think the reason we are told not to harden our hearts is because that is the natural tendency of our flesh.  We often want to excuse or justify instead of surrendering or confessing. We are clearly warned to heed the voice of the Lord. 

The Holy Spirit does not work on our timetable.  He speaks and we are supposed to listen and obey.  When He speaks to our hearts during a worship service, He expects us to respond. The previously quoted verse also tells us that we can become like the children of Israel if we refuse to hear the voice of the Lord.  We can become rebellious and live in a wilderness if we continually disregard the voice of the Lord. 

What better way to respond to the His voice than stepping out and going down to the altar?  These are the moments that the  Holy Spirit can do His work in us best….when He is speaking to us!  These are moments that need to be acted upon for the enemy of our souls prowls around like a roaring lion seeking someone to devour. (See 1 Peter 5:8).  The devil would like nothing better than to see believers THINK they've made a holy change just because they agree with the sermon.  I have experienced this.  I get so in tuned with the message, nodding my head in agreement, that I assume I've got it when I really don't!  Hearing the Word is not enough.  We need to act upon the Word.  Real change comes when we respond to what we've heard.

That is why we need an altar ministry.  That is why we need to go down to the front of the church when the invitation is given.  That is why we need to forget everyone else in the room and respond to what the Holy Spirit is saying specifically to us. 

40699_150579208286967_100000046659953_467926_4717487_nI'm Mae Lynn Biggs and I have been a follower of Jesus for the past 29 years. My heart is to help women grow in their love for Christ and knowledge of His Word.  I love to spend time with my family, read, hike, and share from my quote collection.  I would love to hear from you- leave a comment below.